What have you Dan ?

Most Chinese men want a good wife at home to raise his offspring , but a ....

...bad girl slut in bed that could help him break the bedposts and possibly unlodge all of the bed springs .

As the Chinese world watches this scandal unfold , it brings to mind how there is no such thing as a perfect man for you .

Someone once told me that all of our men come with at least two vices . That is the general belief .

If he doesn't drink or womanise , smoke or gamble , well , either he's a deadwood boring sloth or you'd better check what he's up to . 

And when it came to the subject of husband choosing , this person told me 3 ancient nuggets of wisdom , 3 criterias her Nyonya aunt passed on to her . 

Notice that these are He tips and not She tips .

1. He must be close to his family

2. He must be hardworking

3. He must love children

And then it also boils down to whether you can close one eye . Or not in this case since it has blown up to such proportions .

Sad to say , that in one moment of lust , he has probably written his death warrant with his "beloved " .

Now it is all up to her whether to get over the heartbreak ( or not ) unless she can stick to him like a leech from then onwards .

Some will argue that it is not fair that the woman stays loyal while the husband screws around . And while some women can do exactly that , at the end of the day , we are still

Women . You WILL feel bad about it unless you're some sex addict or nympho who needs her 4 hourly dosage ( oh yeah there was this lady that made the news after a public divorce with her "superior gene " husband ) of course .

Getting your revenge by sleeping around with other men will NOT hurt the man you intended but your offspring if you have chosen to have any at all .

Which brings to light what son number one asked me the other day .

" How do I find the right wife ? "

Since apparently all the young girls in his circle are sexually active whether physically or virtually . So the subject of a virgin wife is completely outdated ok son ? 

" How do I find a wife who is not materialistic or will fool around behind my back ? "

I told him the following

" It is better to settle for a girl who will do anything for you than a girl whom you love more than she loves you back in return "

together with a host of other outrageous unprintables . Tips a frank mom gives to her son whether his ears will bleed or not .

Yes marriage is quite a gamble , it requires a lot of perseverance , some amount of quarrels but love will rule over everything because at the end of the day 

A man will love his wife dearly after she sticks through all the thick and thin

HOWEVER there is no guarantee that she would have been so sick of him and all of his shenannigans and bore so many unforgivable grudges against him that by that time ,when no woman finds him attractive anymore , she might of out the blue suddenly shock him with a divorce petition after the kids have all grown up .

Moral of the story :

If you still want to fool around please for heaven's sakes , don't get married . Applies to both boys and girls .

Go date whoever you want first before you commit .